People say: “learn from mistakes”. It seems easier, but it took a long time to the character of the child was formed on the principle of education through natural and logical consequences. For example, because of its eternal nesobrannosti the boy returned home without his favorite toy — now the whole rest of the summer will take on walk old. Let him learn to watch your own stuff, because that beautiful truck in the shop is just not there. This is the reality. The logical impact of the situation on the child more than if my parents scolded him, called him a wimp, bookrules about the high cost of lost things and in the end reluctantly bought a new expensive toy. What will you learn in this reaction adults? At best, the fact that parents are responsible for everything. It is known that the accusations, swearing, notation or cry on many children do not apply.
Education logical or natural consequences could significantly defuse the relationship between parents and children. Because often in a family there is a clear confrontation, and it seems that the only question is who will win: mother, driving slow child, or a child who by his deliberate slowness wants to attract her attention. In the end, both lose, because at the time of the dispute disappears harmony of their relationship.
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The intrinsic value. Love of self. Faith in yourself. Hope. Unconditional acceptance of yourself. Conditional self-acceptance. Conditional acceptance of yourself. Unconditional acceptance of yourself. Self-sufficiency and dependence.
The intrinsic value is sensual (emotional) relation of man to himself, emotional acceptance/rejection itself..
Worth begins in childhood emotional attitude of parents to the child.
The value can be of four types: unconditional acceptance, conditional acceptance, conditional acceptance of yourself, unconditional acceptance of yourself.
Unconditional acceptance of yourself includes:
When the child was brought up in the conditions of unconditional love, care, trust, security, he formed the unconditional acceptance of yourself.
Unconditional love (the love regardless of their actions, qualities, past, etc. – the man loves himself the way he is) . The man who certainly loves himself not to be ashamed of any of his negative qualities, and not be proud of the positive. It positively refers to itself regardless of various conditions (successes-failures, advantages, disadvantages, etc.). It is independent of the acceptance-rejection myself other (I love myself no matter, love or no love around me). With unconditional love, a man committed to change, as Hoca
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“Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee”(ex. 20:12).
Why parents need to read, but not to love
“Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee” (ex. 20:12).
Although God is love, but in this commandment He says reverently. Respect is the highest form of love. You can love, but not to read, but there is no respect without love. Deference involves a deep respect and reverential gratitude. True reverence implies an appeal to “you”, it does not allow you to hurt people, raise your voice, especially raising your hand.
The opposite of respect is familiarity. Familiarity is a sin that occurs at every step. When a person behaves with parents, leaders, managers familiarly, cheeky, arrogant, he loses grace. “Like the precious oil upon the head, flowing down on the beard, the beard Aaronic flowing on the border of his garment” (PS. 132:2). Firs flowing from the head, so when we put the parents on the same level or even below it are losing a great many of the blessings that could only be obtained through the chain of command.
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