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The intrinsic value. Love of self. Faith in yourself. Hope. Unconditional acceptance of yourself. Conditional self-acceptance. Conditional acceptance of yourself. Unconditional acceptance of yourself. Self-sufficiency and dependence.

The intrinsic value is sensual (emotional) relation of man to himself, emotional acceptance/rejection itself..

Worth begins in childhood emotional attitude of parents to the child.

The value can be of four types: unconditional acceptance, conditional acceptance, conditional acceptance of yourself, unconditional acceptance of yourself.

Unconditional acceptance of yourself includes:

When the child was brought up in the conditions of unconditional love, care, trust, security, he formed the unconditional acceptance of yourself.

Unconditional love (the love regardless of their actions, qualities, past, etc. – the man loves himself the way he is) . The man who certainly loves himself not to be ashamed of any of his negative qualities, and not be proud of the positive. It positively refers to itself regardless of various conditions (successes-failures, advantages, disadvantages, etc.). It is independent of the acceptance-rejection myself other (I love myself no matter, love or no love around me). With unconditional love, a man committed to change, as Hoca

Unconditional faith in yourself, faith in yourself, regardless of previous negative/positive experience). The man with absolute confidence in himself feels confident, regardless of their abilities. It will be equally confident of doing the job, which is well versed, and which is not good. He feels equally confident in both situations, where neg is the support and where it didn’t and he’s likely to lose.

Unconditional hope (desire for the best, regardless of capacity). The word “hope” is derived from the old Slavonic word “deed” to do. It is hoped people as much as he does something (and not as many today understand hope as empty idle dreams of the best). In the modern language of “hope” rather corresponds to the desire for the best, willingness to work on changes and enthusiasm. Absolute reliable is when a person is ready to take on the world, even when they seem hopeless, ready to change in any difficult conditions, ready to move forward despite any obstacles.

Conditional acceptance:

The man who was brought up in an atmosphere of conditional love (” I love you, if you behave well, if you behave badly – I’m indifferent attitude “) and other abnormalities in emotional maturity could be formed conditional acceptance of oneself.

Conditional love . “I love myself, if I’m doing something good when you treat me well, etc.”. People with conditional love this love this love trying to win.

Conditional belief in yourself . “I trust/don’t trust (confident/not confident; believe/don’t believe in yourself) depending on their capabilities, abilities”. People make confident only the cases in which he understands.

Conditional hope . “I strive for the best, only if I have the possibility to achieve it”

Conditional acceptance:

The man who was brought up in an atmosphere of conditional hatred (” I’m indifferent attitude, if you behave well, if you behave badly – I hate you “) and other abnormalities in emotional maturity could be formed of a conditional rejection.

Conditional dislike for yourself . “I hate myself if I do something good, I no longer hate myself”. People with conditional love for myself, trying to avoid self-punishment and self-abasement through various actions (if I’ve done something good or has earned the attention of others, we may have to stop hating yourself).

Conditional distrust of himself . “I don’t trust myself, and can only do much when you are ready”. The person ceases to be insecure (but not stanovitsa sure) only in those cases in which he understands.

Conditional hopelessness . “I don’t strive for the best, I’m just avoiding the worst.” Man moves only negative motivation, to anything positive he’s not moving.

Unconditional acceptance of yourself.

The man who was brought up in an atmosphere of unconditional hatred (” I hate you, regardless of anything “) and other abnormalities in emotional maturity could be formed of a conditional rejection.

Unconditional dislike (hate) to themselves . “I hate myself regardless of any conditions”

Unconditional distrust of himself . “I don’t trust myself, believe in myself regardless of what”. People are not confident regardless of their abilities, qualities, etc.

Absolute hopelessness of man does not aspire to anything under any circumstances.

Dependent in the early stages of recovery from chemical dependency is usually in a state of unconditional acceptance . For successful recovery, he needs first to learn the conditional acceptance conditional acceptance, then the unconditional self-acceptance . This is important when self-reflection, analysis, etc. to celebrate not only the shortcomings and mistakes as well as accomplishments and achievements, to learn to praise yourself, to learn to forgive their mistakes to forgive.

The theme of “inherent Value”:

How did the use of your self-value (self-acceptance). For this recall and describe your worth before first use and at the end use and compare these self-assessments. Where will your worth, if you continue drinking?

Write a letter of unconditional love from a Caring Parent (imagine that you are a Good Parent (if it is difficult to imagine themselves as parents, it can be a caregiver, teacher, etc.), and write a love letter to her child – like).

Think of 5 ways you can learn to accept yourself.

Write a story on how you understand the unconditional acceptance of yourself.

Write 10 recommendations to parents how they can teach children unconditional acceptance of yourself.

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