Training of parent-child relationships as a component of psychological support for parents of gifted children – Psychology
Today the problem of giftedness is important. Currently requires the formation of a personality, who is ready not only to live in modern society, but also actively influence the life of this society. It is obvious that modern society needs people capable of creative thinking and active preobrazovatelei activities.
The child first gets the opportunity to show their talent to the family. Parents are the first to notice the talent of the child, although it is not always easy to detect because at the moment there is no stereotype of genius – each child shows his abilities in his own way. The family should help and support the child in the development of his abilities and talent.
Gifted children have many difficulties associated with being different from other children. It’s harder to build relationships with their peers, because of different level of development (intellectual, language, motor, etc.) often does not allow them to find a common language with each other; they are characterized by exaggerated fears, which are usually not realistic as they can imagine lots of dangerous consequences; motor coordination and mastery of the hands of gifted children often lag behind in cognitive abilities, and the difference in intellectual and physical development of these children can cause their lack of independence. You can list a huge number of problems and difficulties inherent in gifted children. But, it should be noted that with a much larger number of problems faced by parents raising a gifted child.
When parents learn that their child is gifted, raises a number of challenges . Many parents are frightened of the responsibility that they must bear for the education of a young genius in front of the child in front of him, as well as to the community in which, subsequently, will come baby, endowed with talents. Another problem is the emotional, temporal, and material costs from parents. In addition, parents, remembering the early development of gifted children, needs at the right time to find the right expressions and examples for your child. It’s also not the whole list of problems associated with raising a gifted child. In each family, at certain points in a child’s life, there are complexities that need to work.
Until recently, working with parents of children with any problems (this applies not only to gifted children, and children generally, including children with deviant behaviors, children with mental disabilities, etc.), was conducted in the form of individual consultations, talks with a psychologist. In our opinion, this direction in working with parents of such children is not enough. Modern society needs people capable of creative thinking and ready to be active. The author had conducted a mini-research, whose task was to figure out what forms of work with a psychologist parents identified as the most optimal. Respondents were 220 people. They needed of the ten proposed forms of work to select one or more most preferred by parents. The data indicate that parents are primarily prone to individual consultations (20%), and slightly fewer parents – training (17%). This trend can be explained by the fact that consultation is the most familiar of all these forms of work, it’s not distrust, it is understandable. Training less than usual, but it is clear that their effectiveness is forcing parents to put this next to the consultations. The minimum number of elections has received such forms of work as seminars (4%) and lectures (5%). These forms are passive, …
Based on the foregoing, from our point of view, psychological assistance to parents, in particular, raising gifted children, should take place in three directions:
1. Informing parents about the features, issues, interests of such child (posters, displays, brochures, information, films, etc.);
2. Teaching parents ways to interact with their child. The most effective in this case is the training of parent-child relationships;
3. Individual consultations, discussions with parents about the specific challenges that arise in this family.
You should pay special attention to a very important component of psychological support for parents training parent-child relationship. We have developed a training program for parents of gifted children who could be included in the system of psychological support in conjunction with other forms of work.
The purpose of the training . training parents of gifted children effective interaction with their child.
Objectives of the training .
1. Empowering understanding the gifted child;
2. Empowering the adoption of the child as he is;
3. Improved reflection of his relationship with a gifted child;
4. Develop new skills of interaction with the child;
5. The establishment and development of relations of cooperation and partnership of parents with a gifted child.
Number of hours: 16 hours: 4 sessions of 4 hours.
1 lesson. The main goals and objectives: introduction of group members, the development and adoption of rules of work in the group, the definition and clarification of the basic question on which all here: characteristics of gifted children, their upbringing, problems and difficulties of interaction between gifted children and their parents.
2 occupation. The main goals and objectives: awareness of the needs of the gifted child, its problems, challenges, look at the world through the eyes of the gifted child.
3 lesson. The main goals and objectives: awareness of the real situation in the family and the characteristics of the relationship with the child, look at yourself through the eyes of a child, speaking to specific problems and situations.
4 lesson. The main goals and objectives: training to create understanding, developing the skill of establishing rapport, expanding the repertoire of effective ways of interacting with their children.
All work with parents of gifted children should be made to teach them to understand and accept their child, to see him as he is and not through the prism of his talents, to help the child to create a healthy self-image, not to be afraid of the difficulties that they face in the process of raising a child, and with whom, in the future, he could face himself. In addition, you need to prepare parents for the fact that of the gifted child will grow up to be a gifted adult, and explain to them that there is nothing terrible that is wonderful.
The main goal of psychological assistance to parents of gifted children is to help them understand that their child, whatever it was, first and foremost a CHILD.