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Why does baby cry after birth


The first cry of a baby is the most awaited sound like for a new mom, and the doctor – neonatologist. By its intensity and saturation can judge how the baby is ready to come to our world.

The primary biological importance of this screaming-crying – to prevent separation of the mother and child in the first hours after birth. This is the main reason why the baby cries after birth.

For a newborn baby crying is the only way he can tell mom about your needs before gaining the power of speech. First cry baby – cry for the protection reaction of fear and discomfort when injected into a new, unfamiliar and not very friendly environment.

What is a child in the process, and in the first moments after birth, can be compared to the feeling a person suddenly fell through the ice: disorientation, cold, shortness of breath. Add to this the feeling of compression when passing through the birth canal, and all this, after 9 months in the usual warm and cozy “cabin”. That is why, in most modern maternity wards practice putting the child to the breast immediately after birth (in the case that there is no threat to the health of the baby and mother). The baby calms down, feeling the warmth of the native body, hearing the familiar sound of my mother’s heart and a mother’s gentle voice.

Surprising fact: for quite a long time – up to six months after birth, and more – children often cry without tears. Especially at night. The child, as if, he continues to sleep – eyes closed and no tears. This is not a cry of pain, or resentment. Just, with a variety of intonations, the little is reported about some of their needs. Sensitive mother gradually begins to distinguish the different kinds of crying. For example, it is noticed that when the pain, the child usually produces fairly sharp, shrill cries of “bays” whereas, the hungry cry, the more monotonous, starts whimpering sounds and increases with time.

The main causes of crying babies first year of life usually are: hunger, pain (the most common problem is intestinal colic and erupting teeth), uncomfortable environment temperature, irritation of the skin from wet diapers, fatigue, anger (for example as a response to restrictions on freedom of movement); in addition, the baby may just be sad and lonely.

In the minds of many parents, to this day, live various myths about child crying, allegedly during crying child “develops light”, or “builds character”. However, in recent years, psychologists tend to believe that prolonged crying is nothing useful for the baby. Quite the contrary: if the mother is not suitable for long, the little man is experiencing increased stress because of his fragile world is left without protection. This can adversely affect a child’s psyche. Moreover scream “blue” can hurt, even at the physiological level: cause oxygen starvation, or pathological condition of the respiratory system. Young parents are often concerned, not do they spoil their child, responding to every cry. Experts say: for children up to years, of any “pampering” cannot be and speeches. Quick response of parents to the needs of the child gives him a sense of security and comfort, which contributes to its harmonic development.

Now you understand why the baby cry after birth is normal. And now let’s talk about how to calm a crying newborn?

The first is to offer food. “Infants” best soothes my mother’s Breasts. There is a multitude of reasons: a need for frequent meals, and a friend of my mother’s scent, and warmth of the mother’s body. The modern technique of “free” breastfeeding promotes attachment to the baby to the breast every time he shows concern. If breastfeeding is not possible, the mother should feed the baby the bottle, putting an arm around him and lightly pressed to his body. After the feeding, you can give the baby a dummy: children who are not breastfeeding need more than others in meeting the sucking reflex.

Second, you need to make sure that the delicate skin of the child is not experiencing discomfort – dirty and wet diaper, or huddled under the back of the diaper can cause irritation. In addition, kids can not tolerate heat and cold. Therefore, parents should frequently check whether the clothing and bedding of the child. And check how comfortable the temperature in the room. You should also make sure that the baby was not hurt their own sharp nails from such troubles well save integral scratch mitts.

The third is to hold a set of procedures for elimination of intestinal colic. Currently pharmacies offer a wide range of drugs, relieves colic. But, “old-fashioned” methods nobody cancelled: dill water, putting some on her tummy, “dry heat”, a light soothing massage – all of this can greatly facilitate the life of the little man and his parents. And of course, for mom, breastfeeding, required a special diet, eliminating from the diet the cabbage, peas, sweet fruits, and other foods that contribute to flatus.

The fourth method is old as the world, but its reliability is not questioned: you need to wear the baby in her arms, shaking slightly. You can use the “sling” – this is especially important when the baby’s weight more than five pounds.

Fifth – sing a lullaby, or just talk to him gently. Gentle mother’s voice – an excellent sedative.

Sixth . Many children already from the age of three begin to disturb the erupting teeth. So, stock up on a variety of teethers and analgesic gel cost in advance. Very effective teethers cooling effect.

Seventh . Rarely, but it happens that none of these (and many other) ways, does not work. The baby cries for a very long time and is not going to stop. Look closely at his physiological reactions. Maybe the crying is associated with some serious malaise. In this case, it is best to consult a doctor.

Eighth . and most importantly – do not fret. Always remember that a newborn baby cries not to disturb your sleep or try your patience to the test. To cry “out of spite” he just doesn’t know how. Excited state and the negative attitude of parents easily transmitted to the baby. And, similarly, calm and friendly mom “absorbed” by the child, which contributes to its speedy asleep.