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The Role of the family in nurturing the skills of cultural behavior children


The ability to behave in society is very important for the occurrence of the child in this society. Folk wisdom says: “clothes make the man”. And it concerns not only the appearance, but also of human behavior. What is the “clothes” should be the child to the surrounding people met with the good of his parish in the world?

To teach the culture of behavior must practically from the cradle. A small child we teach, and if they are persistent and patient, basic habits of good conduct, they will be able to lay even in childhood. Infant behavior culture is expressed in basic grooming and hygiene.

Unpleasant to look at the kid, who, swaggering over parents, throws hands in your food. Often parents or relatives still lovely: “What a pickle!” And mischief will continue in the same spirit. Where then may receive a cultural habit to eat at the table? As soon as the child begins to eat with a spoon, it is necessary to accustom to do it right, and not rely on “random”, that with age he will do everything right. Will not work if you do not learn!

Then the child grows, and with it must grow its culture stay in the community. Of course, the main objects of imitation are the parents . If the family has not eaten from a beautifully served dishes, wondering where the child will learn beautiful to eat. And doesn’t have to be every day ceremonial service. Enough and everyday utensils, the main thing — it is a culture of serving. The child must use all Cutlery, including knives. That’s right, if from childhood he will use cloth — woven or paper. Just accustom to them requires the attention of parents, and therefore extra time. But this is necessary because a beautiful eating only one of the links of civilized man.

It is very important to teach the child to behave properly in public areas: transport, theatre, museums, zoo. There are a few simple rules, which forms the skills of cultural behavior.

Especially in public places is not accepted to speak loudly. This is especially true of museums and theaters. The child was brought to the Museum or theater, should clearly understand the purpose of the parish. For this house before the trip, it is necessary to speak, how to behave in these places. Of course, one conversation is not enough. Required system impact. If the child went to the theater from an early age, he gradually learns the correct behavior because the parents constantly tell him how to behave.

Further, indecent, sitting in the theater, getting ready to rustle candy wrappers from chocolates to eat on the spot or to drink water. There is an intermission, and a snack bar. After operation there is no need to run headlong into a snack bar. You can safely come in and do everything. The child needs to explain why, for example, in the movies you can eat popcorn and drink Coca-Cola, and in the theatre. Need details more than once to tell the child about the theatre, about the requirements that apply to its visitors.

Special conversation about the child’s behavior in transport. Since childhood the child must learn that to sit in the transport it is not necessary, and Vice versa, if he sits, and an adult standing over him, we must stand up and be replaced. A very unpleasant picture when an elderly grandmother standing over sitting plump toddler. No tragedy will happen if the child stand up, he’s got the energy of three adults will suffice. But the harm from such seat a lot! The child learns not to respect elders, not to have compassion and empathy.

The following rule applies to the behavior of the child at exhibitions and in museums. You must teach him not to touch anything with your hands, do not log in with ice cream and not to approach the exhibits, having stuck to the bottle of Coca-Cola. To be attentive and to listen to the guide. In order to have the interesting child, parents need to carry out preparatory work. To interest the child, to talk about the exhibition, to create a need to explore the exhibits. Then the child is easier to control their behavior.

Another rule I want to discuss. It concerns the behavior of the child in the house when guests come. This special atmosphere and requires special solutions. It is impossible to say whether or not it child to sit at the same table with the adults. On this account in the educational environment there are different opinions, and each point of view is respectable authors. I think the child seat at the table would neither for him nor for adults. Especially if the table is a alcohol. You must explain to the child that the adult table of people, and he, for example, would be invited for tea. If several children can can make for them a separate table. Better in a separate room. It can as nicely be served, and children will not beg at the table of adults. If you prepare properly, you feast both tables will be organic.

The education of the children of cultural behavior, as any educational activity that requires adult pedagogical efforts. We must remember that the child does not know the rules, so he needs in detail and more than once to explain. Then, of course, given that a young child is very emotional, to form positive relationships­tion to the rules. This can be done through interviews about the great­forks, reading small stories, where the characters behave incorrectly, and discuss what they have read. And, of course, most importantly, by an adult to behave correctly. Then the child imitating an adult in all things, will be to imitate him in proper behavior.

We follow the objectives of our website, we offer a checklist for parents who consider the culture of the child’s behavior necessary element in his upbringing. The proposed rules primarily address behavior at school. Of course, the teacher will tell you, and more than once, the child how to behave. But parents also will be useful to remind their child. This will only strengthen his position among teachers and peers.

We are aware that the proposed location of the topic — a grain of sand in the ocean of knowledge in psychology and pedagogy. Basically the author has built this series is based on my own practical experience, and he had no goal to present all the themes mentioned Sciences. But that is impossible. The main objective of the discussion — to arouse the interest of parents to teacher education and personal improvement in this area. If it succeeds, we will assume the mission of the author is made.