« I am 35 years old, divorced, live alone with my daughter 16 years. My mom still pronounces me that I don’t dress like that, not everyone does it, why she didn’t call, why not come and after a couple years I could be a grandmother. Amazingly, I often place my daughter claims that for many years not in my heart to forgive his mother. How to deal with this?” To Svetlana .).
From love to hate
” One father is worth a hundred teachers. But one real mother is worth hundreds of fathers” – says the ancient Indian wisdom . I want to mention: I will not in this essay to consider a successful relationship of mother and daughter, their love, friendship, mutual affection. Each of us can cite many examples of the incredible, incomparable love of a mother to a daughter and a mother’s sacrifice for the welfare of his girls. It is known that the strongest love in the world – the love of the parent, it is often blind, sometimes even something like an animal instinct.
However, psychologists have to state the fact that so spoil the life of her child, how could a mother, who can rarely. Mothers sometimes do not realize that there must come a time when a girl should be released, Continue reading
All people, beginning in adolescence, experiencing mixed feelings of rejection by parents. We want to be free and this desire sometimes comes right still to hate the people who gave us life . Of course, we are grateful to them. Of course, we understand that we owe them. Of course, we love them. But…
“I don’t know why, but I hate my mother. I have always loved her and now can’t cope with this feeling. I don’t even hate the mother, and their duty to go to it. It so happened that from the age of 16 I live far away, but every year on vacation I visited her for 2-3 weeks and loved these trips. Now I’m already 50 years old, my mother is 75. She can’t be alone, and I am obliged very often to her. While I’m far from it, I really feel for her, her old age and infirmity, but as soon as you come to it, my mental problems start – I get mad every word she said to me, I hate her behavior .
There are tons of it to nothing, for example, just feels sorry for me or advises that the best way to do, and I’m right in the shower all over. Directly the brutality of what is inside. Do my children hate me like I hate my mom? I’m scared of this feeling, I’m scared Continue reading
Very often it happens that the daughter-in-law doesn’t know how to build relationships with mother-in-law. Whatever ways she tried to “satisfy” her, she will always find a reason, as she seems to complain about her daughter in law.
To learn to build relations with the mother of your spouse, avoiding sharp corners, you need to first define what nature had given her nature and what type of mother she is. And then revise your “willingness” and the desire to establish these relationships.
7 types of mother-in-laws
How to find a common language with mother-in-law “the Owner”? This is the most difficult of all possible the options below, because the chances to please mother in law like this in anything is virtually nil. It is, as a rule, a single mother, bringing up her child alone, without male support and attention from the stronger sex, so for this mother’s joy in her unsettled life is his own son, which she doesn’t want to see anyone.
Any future wife initially summons outright hostility. For her only son — it’s her private property. And the marriage of her child she sees as an encroachment on its treasure.
What you do in this situation?
The first option — wait for the time when the mother-in-law will change his position and stop harassing You, reconsider Continue reading